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I Miss Them But I Don’t Miss Them

by Tania Filidis / January 11, 2018

Sean and I finally went away for the weekend for the first time in almost five years. Sean’s parents stayed with the boys, and we went to Maastricht, – a marvelous town in the south of the Netherlands.

We had such a good time, I didn’t particularly want to come back. It was unbelievably refreshing to spend time together with my husband without our offsprings. It was so exciting to have each other’s undivided attention, sleep in, and be able to use the toilet when I wanted to (versus not having time to pee and having to wait for hours until I was reminded of the forgotten almost exploding bladder by a sudden sharp pain in my belly).

I very much enjoyed my time on that toilet, leisurely relaxing my body and not having to involuntarily stop the natural process of what I was doing and run to the rescue of a screaming, desperate, abandoned-for-two-minutes child somewhere in the dangerous jungle of the living room.

It was delightful to slowly have breakfast, sipping on our coffee, and chewing the delicious food that someone else made for us. And take our sweet time. Enjoying the uninterrupted bliss of a peaceful winter morning. Every. Second. In peace and quiet. No sweet, high-pitched voice yelling something into my face. Quiet and peace.

I felt bad for not feeling bad for not missing my children like crazy. I did miss them, but it was more like “I-could-enjoy-this-time-another-two-or- three-days-alone-with-Sean-thank-you-very-much-miss-them.”



So, we decided to get away on a regular basis. Now that I have tasted freedom, there is no turning back.

I still think I am a great mom. I am still madly in love with my little men. I am just rested and hence a bit more satisfied with the life I chose to have – the beautiful, hard, fun, amazing, tiring, full of wonder, intense happiness, and heavenly joy life of a mother.

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14 Comments

Reply Elisabet January 24, 2018 at 4:45 pm

Hi Tania, I just love reading your story’s about life. There so funny but yet so true and understandeble. I know what you are talking about. I think it is a good thing that you and Sean wants to spend time together alone, without the kids. It is good for you but also for your kids.
I have also read the other storys and yes I’m looking forward to your new one’s. So keep them coming! haha (excuse my english writing is not so good as it should sometimes)

Reply Tania Filidis January 26, 2018 at 3:30 pm

Elisabeth,
Thank you for your kind words. I hope Sean and I will be able to have some time together on a regular basis.
And I will keep writing so that you could enjoy reading my thoughts and give me feedback.

Reply John January 24, 2018 at 5:22 pm

Kudos on this Tania! So glad you and Sean are committed to doing this on a regular basis. We have found that when it is a routine part of our month or year, the flow of our lives improves and we learn so much about the goodness God has given us in each other.
Also, you have inspired me to finish my coaching website.

Reply Tania Filidis January 26, 2018 at 3:27 pm

Hey John, yes, we are committed. I wish we could do it every other weekend haha

Looking forward to checking your finished coaching website 😀

Reply NorA January 24, 2018 at 6:18 pm

Zooo herkenbaar😇🤗😂

Reply Tania Filidis January 26, 2018 at 3:25 pm

🙂

Reply Patricia van Engelen January 24, 2018 at 7:48 pm

Hi Tania, So happy to hear you and Sean got some glorious rest. Amazing what a difference a few days of rest can make!

Reply Tania Filidis January 26, 2018 at 3:15 pm

Patricia, unbelievable what a few days of rest can do to you! Absolutely!

Reply Jim Murphy January 24, 2018 at 10:47 pm

You NEED some time away every now and then. It’s good for you and it’s good for them ultimately.

Reply Tania Filidis January 26, 2018 at 3:13 pm

Jim, I agree with you. I don’t know how good it is for them, but it sure is good for us 😉

Reply Mirjam Lock January 25, 2018 at 10:13 am

Haha, I’m with you on this subject. You love em but sometimes it’s a great releave to have some peace and quiet around you and enjoy eachother without, how puppy eyed cute they may be, distraction. Very good choice to make some regular time free to keep your marriage nurtered.

Reply Tania Filidis January 26, 2018 at 3:11 pm

Yes, Mirjam,for sure. The only problem is to find someone to stay with the boys for a couple of days. My parents are in Ukraine, Sean’s – in America, so we take whatever opportunity we can get, even if it is only once in five years 😉 (so far)

Reply Will February 6, 2018 at 4:04 am

Its great to read a bit about how you all are getting along. Its wonderful to see how life has progressed. Thanks for sharing!

Reply Tania Filidis February 13, 2018 at 10:58 pm

Thanks, Will!
Miss you!
How has your life progressed so far? 😉

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My name is Tania. I am Ukrainian, married to an American, living in the Netherlands. Passionate mother of two young wildlings — Toviy and Luka. I like to read, eat and sleep. When I am not engaged in these self-indulgent activities … read more
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