“You are just one big feeling, with eyes, lips, and ears,” said Sean. Why do our emotions (more for women than for men, usually) seem so very important, real and even tangible? They can seem even more real than the factual reality around us. It’s like our feelings secretly rule over our lives. And, honestly, what can be done? Kill the feelings? Well, if you kill feelings, you kill the woman (and some men too). A while ago, Sean and I were…